V(U)LNERABILITY STARTS WITH (U)!
Why is it so hard to show people our true colors? I wish I had the answer. Well, I may have an idea. I will start with my thoughts and I welcome feedback!
First off, what is vulnerability?
In the book Daring Greatly by Brene Brown, she defines vulnerability as "the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is a source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper or meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path. Vulnerability is the core of all emotions and feelings" (pg. 33).
Why is it important to be vulnerable?
Vulnerability is the root for self-discovery, self-love, and self-acceptance. As humans we tend to bury our emotions and it is hard to receive/accept love. At times, we feel that we are the only ones who would understand or fear the pain of opening ourselves up. The importance of being vulnerable lies in the idea that we are showing our raw emotion, as well as, facing "shit" that we have not faced in a long time. Essentially, get the shit out! Deal with it, show up and be present.
Is there a pill that will help me be vulnerable?
Wouldn't that be nice? A happy pill to create a space where we can be vulnerable! No! Vulnerability requires you to show up and go through it the emotion. Dig deep-- create change. If you are vulnerable and you are able to work through your emotions, I believe you are living a more fulfilled and authentic life.
STRATEGIES FOR VULNERABILITY
1. Be present. Do not overwhelm your mind with 25 task you have to do for the day. Be present in all that you do, even the difficult emotions, be there-- experience and share.
2. Do you reject the emotion you are feeling. It is important to embrace the emotion and experience it.
3. Break down the wall one brick at a time. No one is telling you to break down your walls that you have built for the greater part of your life. Small steps is all it takes to impact big change in your life.
4. Be kind to yourself. You are working hard on your journey toward vulnerability. If you are not kind to yourself then others will not be kind to you. How you treat yourself will set standards for how other people are allowed to treat you.
5. Be patient. It is important to give yourself time to be vulnerable and be patient with your process.
6. Enjoy the journey. I always appreciate when friends, clients, or family feel safe enough to open up to me. As I know we are all on our own journey towards self-actualization. How get there-- depends on the individual person.
Vulnerability is an ever-flowing process on the journey of life: embrace it and love YOU!
Be You. Be Happy. Be Well.